how saga (went about) getting her groove back...

lame title - but semi-apt. warning: long post

ok, so since Mia did it, and Diva did it, I'm trying to be open to online dating, again. So I updated/added profiles to blackpeoplemeet.com, blacksinglesconnection.com, etc. I like BPM, because it lets you seach all over the world, and frankly I don't think I'm gonna find a sympatico in GA.

So, outta the blue I get these IM's from this dude. 27 years old, and Indian - from the country, not Native American.

Wait, let me digress for a moment. I LOVE black men. Love them. Love the way they smell, walk, talk, think, dress, vibe, see the world, taste - just LOVE them. Platonically, semi-platonically, brotherly, sensually, sexually, physically, mentally, emotionally - LOVE them. I've never "dated" outside the race (I had the feva once, but never even carried that through...), and didn't really have the inclination to. Until I heard from this dude on BPM.

What's amazing about the whole thing (IMHO anyway):: Dude has game. There is no PC translation for that - he's got his mojo/mack/whatever you want to call it down. cold. look:

saga30311:  that's cool
hipdudefromindia:  lol we are in the same field 
saga30311:  lol
hipdudefromindia:  many indian folks  cannot 
understand those who have ... grown out of the limitations and 
look at other culture women
saga30311:  yes, the ppl i work with....culture is very 
important to them
hipdudefromindia:  have u observed that?... 
hipdudefromindia: yeah..but well u know for me ... 
hipdudefromindia: i have grown over it ... its like I have made friends out of 
the closed culture ...  and i have been around white and 
black people more than indians
saga30311:  ok ... have u dated blk women b4?
hipdudefromindia:  I actually was in a relationship 
with a blk woman for 2 yrs
hipdudefromindia:  i prefer blk women really
saga30311:  really?
saga30311:  why?
hipdudefromindia:  I mean if i were to marry again, i 
would marry a blk woman ... coz they are lovely ... 
hipdudefromindia: they are more sensitive but 
stronger

Wait...he "gets" that? And acknowledges that it's a positive thing? Ok, now he's got my full & undivided...

hipdudefromindia:  they dont look down on other 
cultures... on the other hand, its the other 
cultures that has been bad to them
hipdudefromindia:  but u know..if i find my woman in 
the east coast. its definitely a plus
saga30311:  ok - u want to move out here?
hipdudefromindia:  sure...i would definitely
hipdudefromindia:  if we click very much yes
hipdudefromindia:  am i invited to the east coast?
saga30311:  maybe...like u said if we click....
hipdudefromindia:  lol i see a lot of caution in what u 
say          ..sure!
hipdudefromindia:  i just want u to relax..dont put too 
much thinking into the age thing or the culture thing
hipdudefromindia:  u know what..we all live for just a 
short time
hipdudefromindia:  and most of the problems we face
are only in our imagination ... just see me as a man ... nothing else

Now that's a gangsta-a$$ Marcus Graham - 'I-can't-breathe-without-you'-line if I've ever heard it. Seriously. But it worked on Halle, and it's (at least)got me thinking. Carry on, Indian dude...

hipdudefromindia:  do u love big ear rings..they look 
so good on u ...nice
saga30311:  and thank u
hipdudefromindia:  i like a woman who knows to 
dress well...not snobbish..but simple and 
good
hipdudefromindia:  hey and ur curly hair is charming...
hipdudefromindia: is it really curled or u curled it?
saga30311:  actually....in that pic it's curly and nappy....
hipdudefromindia:  lol ok          
saga30311:  r u familiar with nappy?
hipdudefromindia:  no not really...teach me baby
Me, thinking: baby? dayum
saga30311:  ok, u know how black women relax their
hair? I don't...my hair is in its natural texture...
saga30311: or sometimes press it straight
hipdudefromindia:  thats cool...but its hard to comb right
saga30311:  VERY hard...lol
hipdudefromindia:  i could be ur hairdresser          
saga30311:  lol - u'd be scared to do my hair....it's 
THICK
hipdudefromindia:  i would love to...can give u a nice head massage 
with shampoo...and then do ur hair
hipdudefromindia:  i love these challenges.. 

Ok, this nailed it. I have this weakness about my hair...love playing in it, and love when other folks play in it and he just played with my emotions on this one.

I could go on, but you get the feeling. Charming, flattering, sensitive...saying all the right things.

Ok, so a 27 year old indian dude though? I'm rethinking my own personal diversity program...lol.